Anyone Else But You

You're a part time lover and a full time friend
The monkey on you're back is the latest trend
I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else
But you

I kiss you on the brain in the shadow of a train
I kiss you all starry eyed, my body's swinging from side to side
I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else
But you

Here is the church and here is the steeple
We sure are cute for two ugly people
I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else
But you

The pebbles forgive me, the trees forgive me
So why can't, you forgive me?
I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else
But you

I will find my nitch in your car
With my mp3 DVD rumple-packed guitar
I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else
But you

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Up up down down left right left right B A start
Just because we use cheats doesn't mean we're not smart
I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else
But you

You are always trying to keep it real
I'm in love with how you feel
I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else
But you

We both have shiny happy fits of rage
You want more fans, I want more stage
I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else
But you

Don Quixote was a steel driving man
My name is Adam I'm your biggest fan
I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else
But you

Squinched up your face and did a dance
You shook a little turd out of the bottom of your pants
I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else
But you

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父母的過去和孩子的未來相遇

預現——父母的過去和孩子的未來相遇
更新日期:2008-03-02 記者:呂政達

父母常覺得對小孩好，會照顧小孩的一切。事實上，在心理學家眼裡，父母常只是用自己當孩子時的記憶、文化經驗和投射在佈置孩子的現在和將來，這就稱為「預現」（PROLEPSIS）。

「預現」是發展和教育心理學的關鍵字眼，傳播學家Radnar Rommetveit曾說：「人類的交談就是預現。」就是用父母的過去來和孩子的未來相遇，以為孩子的現在和未來將會重製父母的過去。

然而，除非這個世界一成不變，否則，父母怎能保證，用自己的過去來惜孩子，就是對孩子好？

舉個極端點的例子，晚清出生的女生，媽媽加上的第一句話是：「這個女娃兒腳骨這麼大，將來怎麼綁小腳？」依照媽媽這代的經驗，女人是要纏腳的，卻看不到她孩子的這一代，女人將迎接來風起雲湧的轉變。

回到爸媽的過去，再回到孩子的現在，想像他們共同到來的未來。世代間的養兒經，總是經歷著如是輪迴。

關鍵閱讀：Radnar Rommetveit，1974，《On Message Structure》，John Wiley & Sons，London。

資料來源：張老師月刊
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"就是用父母的過去來和孩子的未來相遇，以為孩子的現在和未來將會重製父母的過去。"
孩子的未來總是難以重製父母的過去，許多父母都只能從經驗中逐漸學習這點
並對自己父母的教養產生另一層體認